Tuesday, February 13, 2007

Here are 12 Scientifically Proven Ways to increase your chance of finding a Perfect Partner. ( Yes, academics actually get paid to research interpersonal attraction, as psychologists rather drearily dub this thing called love. ) These findings dispel many cliches beloved of romantic fiction - from opposites attracting to absence making the heart grow fonder - while confirming others. > By MEGAN GRESSOR



1 Like Seed Like


- Look for someone as much like you as possible, because chances are, he or she is looking for you too. We prefer mates with similar backgrounds, interest, values and beliefs because they validate our own. we even gravitate towards people who look like us. Eminent scientist Sir Francis Galton drew attention to this phenomenon a century ago, and since then it has been confirmed by numerous studies on the resemblances between spouses.


2 Declare Your Desire


- Ditch the strong and silent act because a major turn-on, according to social psychologist Dr Arthur Aron, is the simple realisation that somone fancies you. It makes you feel good about yourself, which, in turn, overflows into feeling good about them. We warm to those who flatter and are nice to us, which is why the stereotypical Byronic hero trading barbs with his love interest ( until near the end when they eventually melt into one another's arms ) is a romantic cliche that does not bear close examination.


3 The eyes Have It


- On one point, however, the bodice rippers are right: there can be such a thing as love at forst sight. It's been shown that the longer a pair of prospective oartners lock eyes upon meeting, the more they like what they see. It helps if you have dilated pupils because these are the single most attractive physical attricute, according to research conducted by the late Eckhard Hess, who was a professor at the university of Chicago's psychology department. He found that subjects shown two pictures of a member of the opposite sex - identical except for pupil size - were twice as likely to pick the larger - pupils photo as the more attractive, even when they could not spot the difference. Enlarged pupils signal intense arousal.

4 Body Language

- Run out of sweet nothings to say? Fall back on body language, a form of non-verbal communication understood by both sexes. The most obvious - and effective - overture is simply staring at the prospective partner and smiling; then there are "preening" gestures, such as playing with your hair.

-According to Allan Pease, author of the Definitive Guide to Body language, what really turns men on is female "submission" gestures, which includes exposing vulberable areas such as the wrists or neck, as well as the leg twine ( the manoeuvre at which Princess Diana, that premier flirt, excelled: it involves crossing the legs and hooking the upper leg's foot behind the lower leg's ankle ).

-Men typically make themselves look more dominant by taking up space and engaging in "crotch display" - thumbs hooked in pockets, fingers "pointing" at the genitals ( worked for Michael Jackson... For a while anyway ).

5 Be Beautiful

- Ignore everything your mum told you about inner beauty - good-looking people are almost universally viewed as smarter, sexier and more successful than their homelier counterparts.

-According to evolutionary social theorists, we value those attributes that improve the chances of successful reproduction, which is why men prefer younger women with long, shiny hair and hip measurements a third larger than their waists ( all markers of youth, health and fertility ), while women prefer taller, older men because they're most likely to have the most resources to invest in offspring.

6 Home Is Where It's At

- Forget about long-distance romances: proximity rules. Being situated close to your potential love object - whether at the desk or in the next street - ensures repeated exposure, beneficial because the more we see someone, the more we like them ( unless we strongly disliked them at first exposure, in which case the opposite is true ). That's why we so often end up with workmates or the boy/girl nxt door.

7 Avoid Comparisons

-All that said, it seems that we gauge prospective partners against prevailing norms, if the findings of Sara Gutierres and Douglas Kenrick of Arizona State University's Psychology department are to be believed. The researchers asked men to rate their dates' looks after viewing Playboy centerfolds pr watching a TV show with pretty female stars. You guessed it: the dates rated worse after the show or centerfolds than before.

-This demonstrates a phenomenon called the contrast effect, whereby our perception of relative differences is distorted according to the order in which things are viewed. For example, if you look at a dark object after a light one, it will appear much darker than if you'd looked at it first or by itself.

8 Love At First Fright

In the 1994 film Speed, Sandra Bullock tells Keanu Reeves, "I've heard relationships based on intense experiences never work out," to which he replies, "We'll have to base ours on ***, then."

The truth


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